Purposeful Growth is a Gift and a Choice

Every day we have the opportunity to get up and choose who we want to be.

Every day we have the opportunity to make space for the moment before we react. Every day is a new opportunity to be better than we were before. Every new day is a gift whether we choose to live that way or not.

Some days this concept feels overwhelming to me. It feels like I can’t possibly live up to my own expectations. This is partly in fault to the perfectionistic mindset, the idea of expecting so much out of ourselves, and often in turn, out of others, that self-sabotage isn’t far behind. We play into our own storyline of never being good enough.

Luckily, it doesn’t have to be this way. When space can be created between our reactions, is when we are given the choice of how we want to act. In what moments do we feel like a reaction no longer takes us towards who we want to be? In what moment can we pause before reacting in a way that no longer serves?

It’s not about being perfect (as much as I know my own brain likes to forget), it’s about growth. It’s getting real with who we are and who we want to be. Giving ourselves space to curiously see what’s holding us back, while embracing the fact that growth can be uncomfortable.  The more we realize we are the only ones in charge of our emotions and take the blame off of others, the deeper the understanding of our own control and power.

Change isn’t linear.

It takes time, missteps, and an open mind. There will be moments of frustration and confusion, but you know what that means? It’s working. The moments that don’t serve are becoming more noticeable, sometimes right away, sometimes 48 hours later. Whenever the reality hits, try to find grace and compassion, remembering that humanity isn’t supposed to be a race to the top. We have the opportunity to make choices for ourselves that can lead us to where we want to go.

So get really clear on your values, your visions, your goals. Get comfy with the knowledge that the path most likely won’t look like what you thought it would. Get comfy in the realization that perfection is a lie to let go of. The beauty of it? Imperfection gives us something to work with, something to root down and grow from.

So get curious and ask yourself the questions:

What in your life is holding you back? What patterns are you tired of repeating? What words take you farther away from where you want to go? When can you create a millisecond of space to make a choice before reacting? Who is preventing you from more? WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE? No one is going to do it for you, but there is a massive community who wants to hold you up and watch you succeed. ❤️