By Grace, She'll Make it. - Morgan Harper Nichols
Can we allow ourselves to sit in a space somewhere between grace and compassion? Can we allow our actions, words, thoughts, to display love instead of fear?
Can we allow ourselves to believe that although our world isn't always fair, there is beauty to be found in coming home to ourselves.
Can we begin to cultivate a feeling of acceptance, and if not acceptance than neutrality towards our very being? Can space be created for exploration without judgement to better understand who we truly are.
We jump so quickly to assume there is something wrong with us, that we are something to be fixed, but what if instead of allowing ourselves to feel constant shame for our very being, we enabled another feeling all together. What if we set ourselves up to embrace the true feelings we are always reaching for, but instead of looking outwardly, we had the ability to give them to ourselves?
In the moments we reach for shame, embarrassment, or self-loathing, all of which stem from fear and the self-conscious negative evaluation of the self, we are blindly leading ourselves away from what we deeply need. Could we play with the idea that there may be another way? Could we lead ourselves to a space we ACTUALLY need?
Doesn’t it seem a little counter intuitive that during the moments we are most vulnerable, we tend to berate ourselves the worst? In the moments where we feel self-conscious, unworthy, out of place or touch with ourselves, wouldn't it make more sense to act as we would towards our best friend if they were feeling the same?
We can take hold in the moments of otherness and wrap ourselves in a cloak of true grace and compassion. We can create a safe space for when the world tells us we are not enough or don't belong.
Isn't that what we are truly seeking on a daily basis? True acceptance, true love, true compassion, true belonging..not for who we think we should be but for our true inner child. The parts of us that are human, messy, confused, vulnerable, broken, and hard to accept, don't those deserve love too? We all have them if indeed we are all human!
In the end the words still ring true, “by grace, she’ll make it.” Not by shame, not by self-berating or negative self-talk, by grace and compassion and acceptance and love. By placing the fearful heart in the arms of love and kindness we can start being our own biggest advocate.
By learning to give ourselves what we externally seek, we let go of the need for constant external validation and open ourselves up to true belonging only we have the ability to give ourselves.
You are not a mistake, you deserve to feel love, give love, seek love, accept love. There is kindness to be found in the world, start by reminding your body that safety can be found in itself. <3
-A Life Nourished
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